Welcome to the Inbetweenie Club, It Sucks Here

I’ve felt unrepresented by my size/shape on the highstreet for years, and it was reassuring to see on twitter that I wasn’t the only one who felt this way after a short convo with some fellow people struggling to find where their places were in the world of fashion. The word inbetweenie was coined by Queen Beady and finally I found a word that felt appropriate to how I feel about my shape. 

I’m 5ft 11, I have the height of the supermodel, but not the figure of one – my legs are even longer being the average length for someone who is 6ft 2. I have 36G boobs which sounds massive, but they don’t dominate my frame (actually 35 if I’m being specific which makes finding bras as much of a chore as clothes). 36G’s make it hard to find things that stretch or button over a difficult task in itself. I have a naturally big bum which has always been the case which most of the women in my family are blessed with, even at my skinniest size 12 (I went straight from wearing Tammy teen clothes into size 12 – where I stayed between the ages of 11 & 16), my booty rivaled Beyonce’s. Thanks to spending a lot of my teenage years lugging around compost bags, and pushing heavy trolleys on my parents nursery I’ve got muscly but not toned arms and legs which have never gone away, even when I was doing the Body Confidence Program the inches on my legs and arms barely shifted throughout. My stomach is getting flatter, and it’s the only place where I feel like I do drop weight. For the first time in years I feel like my sides are actually flat to my natural curves and there’s no unwanted muffin top making me feel even weirder about my body shape for the first time in years.

I’m a size 16, edging into the plus size category except for am I for my height? Being a size 16 at 5ft 11 is very different proportionately to being a size 16 at 5ft 4 (not that there’s anything wrong with being that size either BTW). Size 16 clothes on the high street are often cut to accommodate a bigger stomach, which is one of my smallest parts in proportion to the rest, needing to find clothes that fit over my boobs, size 16, 18 or in some cases 20 – can mean that the rest of the garment can look like a tent on my arms and belly.

I don’t know where my body and shape belongs in shops. The only shop I can generally rely on for a good fit is Dorothy Perkins, I have 20 pairs of their Eden jeggings as they’re the only trouser I’ve found which are long enough for me, stretch over my bum but don’t gape when they reach my waist. But can’t rely on Dorothy Perkins for everything all the time, most of the time their more ‘non basic’ stuff just isn’t really my style with the patterns and fabrics they use. New Look has a tall range, but their selection never tends to extend past about 20 items, and they never actually have it in stores. Topshop is the only other shop on the high street that do a tall section and finding something that’s a size 16 and tall is near on impossible. Especially if you’re like me and want to see stuff in person so i can see how it’s going to button or stretch over my various body parts.

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(Photos are from my engagement shoot with Charlotte Maddison Photography, Thank you Charlotte for making me like pictures of myself for one of the first times in about 5 years)

Shopping in “normal” sections built for the Average Jo (proud of that one!) would normally not have been a problem until 2 years ago, and WHAM BAM, cropped cuts and the reincarnation of the mini cut started appearing everywhere. Cropped and Mini cuts do not work on someone who is 5ft 11 and everything is already shorter than it should be, let alone taking the rest of my body’s curves into consideration. I used to love going shopping for clothes, but I’ve had times over the past few years when I’ve “had to” find something and have ended up on the dressing room floor distraught in tears that nothing, anywhere seems to fit me.

I now hate going shopping for clothes on the high street (shoes and makeup are clearly fine though), but I’m a person who loves to see things in person. I can generally tell from how something is on the hanger if it’s going to stand a chance of fitting. Despite its recent bad press in the blogosphere over the past week, ASOS has been my savior over the past 2 years. Their tall section goes all the way up to a size 18, and even when I was a bit bigger their curved range was cut actually long enough for me to not have to have a mental breakdown about the combination of curve and tall not existing. Their Premier service has been worth every penny, £9.99 for a whole years next day delivery is amazing when it’s a total pot luck for you as to whether things will fit, I can order from ASOS 3 times in a week if I’m hunting for a perfect dress or skirt and still have it in time for the weekend when I need my shiny new garment.

I am DREADING going wedding dress shopping in a few weeks. My whole reason for joining the Body Confidence program was to feel better for going dress shopping as quick as possible, and do you know what I’ve got more body confidence than I ever have done before. But that hasn’t stopped me thinking stuff is not going to fit me correctly. I know shops order you the dress in your size and they can work wonders in alterations, hell I’ve watched enough episodes of Say Yes To The Dress over the past 6 months to know that for sure. But I hate the idea of taking such a big leap of faith that when it will arrive in 6 months time it will be what I hoped for and fit as it’s meant to. Wedding dress shopping is meant to be an exciting milestone event and I’m not 100% looking forward to it. Pray for me next Friday, I’ll be having an anxiety breakdown.

If you don’t fit in the average bubble, I feel you. Welcome to the Inbetweenie Club, most of the time it sucks here – but remember it’s not your fault that there’s no box you can tick where you belong.

Update a year on from writing this: I still get a lot of comments on this post, I leave it pinned to the top because I get thank you emails about it and it makes me realise saying this has helped some people who was maybe thinking the same. I’ve thought about unpinning it, but I don’t want to for now. I did go wedding dress shopping and loved it, and infact I’m now married as of June 2017. My dress was wonderful and I felt like a princess (not long grass friendly though!).


 

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  1. August 18, 2016 / 6:57 am

    Great post I am totally with you on this I’m 6ft a size 16 long legs short body. I have a large chest toned arms and legs. The difference being I’ve no bum no hips and a muffin top no matter how slim I am from the back I look like s size 12 as I’m not at all wide but due to my stomach side on I’m really round. I’m often mistaken for a pregnant woman as the rest of me looks rather slim and proportionate. I hate shopping for clothes and get really frustrated that tall ranges are online so I can’t see how things will hang on me. I thought no this is why in so in to make up save the shades it works.

  2. August 18, 2016 / 7:20 am

    Being just under 5ft, I’m at the opposite end of the scale height wise but boy do I feel you. Especially after having my little girl, Willow. I went from a size 8-10 before pregnancy to a size 12-14 post pregnancy. A size 12 is too big up top (or poorly fitted in certain places such as my tummy) but too small on bottom and a size 14 just hangs off me. It’s a bloody nightmare looking for clothes. I was already dreading looking for a wedding dress with me being so short and all but if I can’t shift the weight then there’s yet another reason to dread wedding dress shopping. *sigh*

    • August 18, 2016 / 10:14 am

      Yes, my top half is much smaller than my bottom, finding a fitted dress is impossible! Good luck with dress shopping, it’s a daunting task in itself but with body challenges to contend with it’s even worse. Have you got a planned date for the search?

  3. Sarah
    August 18, 2016 / 8:15 am

    I’m glad I’m not the only person who has the Eden jegging in numerous colours! I really struggle finding trousers that fit right, and for the last few years have just given up and bought from Dorothy Perkins in every available colour!

    • August 18, 2016 / 9:14 am

      Everytime they release a new colour, I’m like I’ll be having a pair of those! I always wait to the weekend as everything’s always reduced too! x

  4. August 18, 2016 / 10:03 am

    Yeah, I know exactly what you mean, I’m 5’9″ with no boobs or bum but wide hips and a saggy tum, stick legs and clown feet!
    That’s why I started sewing for myself….that way I can get exactly what I want and it fits!
    I think you’re beautiful anyway and don’t let the shops or anyone else (including yourself) let you thing otherwise

    • August 18, 2016 / 10:07 am

      Aww thank you!
      I would love to find time to sew my own things, I bought a sewing machine 4 years ago and it’s only been used about 10 times, mostly for repairs! Just can’t seem to find time to do it, renovating the house, 2 crazy dogs and wedding planning leave me with no spare time! πŸ™ Feel you on the clown feet too, size 8s!

      • August 21, 2016 / 1:33 pm

        Yep same size 8s with dropped arches and skinny ankles!
        Everyone has their quirks….just gotta learn to love them

  5. August 18, 2016 / 10:20 am

    I can relate to this 100% I’m so glad I’m not alone! I bet you’ll look stunning trying on wedding dresses πŸ˜€ Sophie x
    sophiehmstewart.com

  6. saturdayonwednesday
    August 18, 2016 / 1:31 pm

    What happened to ASOS in the bloggersphere, I think I missed something?
    I feel you though, I always prefer seeing things in person. I am a very quick shopper, it takes me 1 scan of the room to spot anything that might have a chance of fitting nicely, but it’s that much more difficult to do online. Then there’s all the wait until you get a refund…

    • August 18, 2016 / 1:45 pm

      You can have a read here if you fancy. Post went pretty viral on Twitter! https://lottielamour.co.uk/2016/08/15/what-is-going-on-at-asos-a-frustrated-plus-size-girls-tale/
      One of the reasons I like asos is that they refund quickly; I shopped at chi chi recently and it took 3 weeks after my return for them to process it and refund me! When you’re potentially trying several nice occasion dresses for choice at Β£70 each it’s not good enough, wouldn’t order from them again!

      • saturdayonwednesday
        August 18, 2016 / 1:52 pm

        I don’t always get my Asos refunds quickly, it definitely took them around 2 weeks more than once, although sometimes it would just be 4 days or so. Probably just depends on how busy they are. Their customer service is a nightmare, nobody ever pick up the phone or answers the emails, I was only able to contact them through chasing them up on Facebook, which was ridiculous. Still like it though haha

        • August 18, 2016 / 1:56 pm

          Oh really, I must have ordered about 30 times over the past year and it’s always been under a week and had good experience with their customer service too!

          • saturdayonwednesday
            August 18, 2016 / 2:07 pm

            It probably just depends, I only needed to contact them once and that was horrible, but 8 times out of 10 everything with the order would go smoothly. It’s always the bad times that stick with you though, right?

  7. August 18, 2016 / 3:23 pm

    I’m not an inbetweenie, but I understand your frustration in finding clothes that fit – the smallest size that every store carries, even if it’s from the petite section, is too big for me.
    Try not to get too stressed about the wedding dress. Mine just came back last weekend after 4 months, and even though I’m “special-sized”, other than a very minor alteration to the bust, it fits perfectly. Like you said, those stores are able to do wonders!

    • August 18, 2016 / 3:37 pm

      Your not an inbetweenie, your a below an inbetweenie so I get you!
      I think I’m just starting to overthink dress shopping now which isn’t helping, I wasn’t that bothered three months ago but the closer it gets, the more fear I have that I’m going to have to take a leap of faith that something will look right when it arrives. Makes me nervous! how long til your big day? xx

      • August 18, 2016 / 5:06 pm

        Hehe, the closer you get to an important date, the more stressful it gets! I totally understand the worry though – but you have to remember that these wedding dress stores see girls with so many different body types and body “concerns” that they are good at figuring out how to make the dress fit you perfectly!
        lol, we’re still a long ways away till the big day! Still almost exactly 10 more months to go πŸ˜›

        • August 18, 2016 / 5:18 pm

          Oh gosh, you’re so well planned. I decided to leave mine til as late as possible so I had less time to change what I wanted! I totally imagined me rushing to get one and 6 months later hating what I’d picked! 8 months to go for me!

          • August 18, 2016 / 5:36 pm

            Heh, seems like we just did things in different order, that’s all! We just did our engagement shoot two weekends ago and are still waiting to get the photos back.
            That’s a totally fair point about waiting in case you change your mind! I’m a part of a local wedding group on FB, and I’ve seen women who buy a dress, then keep looking (WHY??), find another one they like better, so they buy it and then try to resell the first one (and usually no one is interested)! Better to hold off till you’re SURE. Some also leave it till later because they think their weight will change closer to the wedding. The next 8 months will fly by!

          • August 19, 2016 / 9:38 am

            I have no idea why you would do that to yourself, aren’t you meant to try on the dress and know that’s the one?! Why would you keep looking, if you’re not sure you shouldn’t buy it, so wasteful!
            Our photographer is currently pregnant and is taking some time off afterwards and I think we’re one of her first weddings next year, I would have liked to have the engagement shoot a bit closer to the wedding but I guess it’s fine as we’ll get more hectic the closer we get!

          • August 22, 2016 / 1:33 am

            I know, right?! Just crazy and like you said, a complete waste of money.
            Yes, very true about just getting the engagement photos done earlier as opposed to later…one more thing to check off your list! We also wanted to do ours a bit closer to the wedding, but we didn’t want to be taking photos in the winter when we’d freeze our butts off outside for two hours, LOL.

  8. August 18, 2016 / 6:55 pm

    This post is PERFECT. You’re talking about everything that we all feel at some point or another and people just don’t talk about it enough. Well done! Re-sharing for sure. πŸ™‚

  9. August 18, 2016 / 7:35 pm

    I’m kind of the opposite in terms of I’m only 5 ft 4 (with small legs for a 5 ft 4 person!) but a tall torso, big boobs but a small waist. My thighs are average size 8 but look chunky in proportion to the rest of my legs and therefore jeans are a) too long and b) the knee rips are on my shins!! I buy top shops cropped jeans to fit me and they’re great as they have different waist measurements too but if I tried to pick a general size 8 pair of jeans, the waist is too big, the legs are too long and the thighs are a tad of a squeeze. Same with tops, I comfortably need a ten to cover my boobs but it’s too big at the waist and still comes up too short so I end up buying an 8 so it at least fits my figure. It does feel very demoralising as in one shop you can be one thing and then in another you could be 2 sizes higher. I hate shopping for clothes and probably haven’t bought anything for months as o don’t find it enjoyable looking in the mirror and realising bits fit but bits don’t. This post made me both sad and relieved so thank you for writing this and also don’t feel like your alone. We have opposing body types but the issues are still there! ❀️

    • August 18, 2016 / 8:31 pm

      Yes this is what I was trying to get at whether you’re the opposite end or the same end we can all relate to each other’s hang ups and problems. 😘
      Me too I hate shopping especially when I really need something like a dress for a wedding, that always tends to be when I can’t actually find what I need is when I need it the most!

      • August 18, 2016 / 9:29 pm

        Me too. Then I end up wearing something from my wardrobe and not feeling very special or wearing a shift dress as I love the way they look and they’re pretty much guaranteed to fit alright but there’s only so many shift dresses you can wear!!

        • August 18, 2016 / 9:32 pm

          I’ve tried on so many shift dresses and they just don’t suit me, they make me look like a big box! Skaters and Tea dresses are definitely my cut, but it would be nice to wear something different and have a choice! x

  10. August 18, 2016 / 10:54 pm

    This was interesting to read, from a different vantage point. The petites market used to be void of products but now I see petites sizes everywhere! It’s high time that your in between club gets some representation too!
    And you’ll be fine with wedding dress shopping – that’s the one type of clothes that I know you’ll be able to get altered to the nth degree. You just enjoy the experience of dress shopping! And please PLEASE do not tell them at the dress shop that you want to “feel like a princess” – ugh, that is uttered too often in “Say Yes to the Dress”!
    Those photos from your enegagement shoot are lovely! (but still cheese) πŸ˜›

  11. August 19, 2016 / 8:45 am

    Great post and you look so gorgeous on your photos 😍 I m 5ft2 and was a trousers size 14 for a couple of years and couldn’t find any trousers that didn’t need alterations as clearly bigger also means taller πŸ™„ Makes no sense! I m a size 8-10 now but have a biiiiig booty so there s more than 1 size difference between my upper half and lower body so struggle a bit with dresses! Enjoy your wedding dress shopping I m sure you ll find the one 😘😘

    • August 19, 2016 / 9:18 am

      Thank you Eleni! I definitely think there’s a size difference between my top and bottom half too, I wouldn’t mind wearing tight body con type stuff, but what will fit me on my boobs and bum will be way too big on my stomach, so frustrating!

  12. August 19, 2016 / 10:16 am

    I totally get this post. I’m a size 8 UK but have 30G boobs which I know sounds like the dream for a lot of girls but it honestly makes finding clothes a nightmare! Everything either makes me look a lot larger than I am or like some kind of Halloween secretary. It’s so annoying as I find high street only seems to cater for very thin or curvy girls but not girls who are slimmer but with big boobs xxx

    • August 19, 2016 / 10:28 am

      Yes often when people here you’ve got big boobs people think oh that’s amazing but they don’t understand the pain of clothes shopping if you don’t want to dress like a hooker or a tent! Feel you on the things looking larger and boxy that’s how I feel!

  13. August 23, 2016 / 4:38 pm

    I really hope we can actually meet up when I go to England, and for more reasons than just this, but I can’t wait to take a picture together because I can’t remember the last time I took one with a friend who was my height! πŸ˜›

    • August 23, 2016 / 5:06 pm

      Most of my friends are about 5 inches shorter than me and choose not to wear heels = awkward leg bend situation where I either look like the BFG or just a mangled mess of limbs! Haha

      • August 23, 2016 / 5:09 pm

        It’s exhausting always being the tallest one in the group, especially because I love heels but have a long long issue of feeling like a giant in them so I never bust them out! πŸ™

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  15. September 2, 2016 / 1:33 pm

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  16. October 15, 2016 / 7:17 pm

    I totally feel this! I’m 5″10 and a size 12 which sounds relatively “normal” except my boobs are a 32G which don’t fit into normal size 12s, 14s are way too big and I’ve got large thighs and stomach which make finding jeans and skirts a pain in the ass! I dread clothes shopping but I just can’t risk ordering online. Good luck wedding dress shopping! I hope it goes much better than you’re expecting it to <3

  17. October 17, 2016 / 2:18 pm

    Big boob problems are totally under-rated, I don’t know how you feel but I feel like mine fit my frame, they aren’t the sort which look so disproportionate to the rest of me that it’s all people look at, and I think that’s even worse as other people don’t know what you’re talking about! I’ve been looking for buttoned up shirts for years, and I’ve finally found two that I like and fit without looking like a tent, or gaping around the boobas. The knock on effect of boobs into how the rest of the garment fits is enormous, can instantly make things feel too short, too tight, too baggy!
    This actually went up the end of August, and I actually managed to find a dress and it wasn’t as painful as expected! I did have to order it in a size 22 (I now wear a 14-16 top and 16 bottoms) thanks to my boobs though and there will have to be several sizes taken down out of my waist to make it fit properly. THANKS BOOBS, you gonna make that alteration expensive.

  18. October 24, 2016 / 8:28 pm

    You look so beautiful and absolutely gorgeous in your photos! I think you will look so lovely in your dress πŸ˜€ ahhh crop tops and bardot necklines/sleeves are the bane of my life, the shops love them, I love them, except I don’t suit them >< I have overly broad shoulders which means I always have to order a bigger size, and my belly hasn't gone back in to shape since having my son waaah! xx
    elizabeth β™‘ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara | (lets follow each other on bloglovin or instagram)

    • October 25, 2016 / 9:17 am

      Thank you Elizabeth, that’s sweet thank you. I’ve now ordered my dress the whole experience wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be! I’ve just bought my first bardot top and it annoys the crap out of me, it rolls and the elastic that’s meant to keep it in place just flips over!
      Followed you on bloglovin, I’ll come back later to have a read as I’m just starting work!
      xx

  19. November 14, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    Loved reading this post because I feel like it does articulate such a struggle. I’m 5″11 and whilst I love my size (10/12) and cant complain i do find it hard to find outfits that compliment tall women. Despite models being around my height or even taller the high street really doesnt cater to women who aren’t cutesy and petite.
    Abigail Alice x

    • November 14, 2016 / 1:40 pm

      I’m sure you must find the same as me, everything is too short unless you are prepared for things to be a mini cut all the time! I recently went dress shopping for a wedding and went to every shop in the city over 2 days and I couldn’t find anything that was cut for someone who is taller or doesn’t want a mini skirt! Ridiculous! Thank you for reading xx

      • November 14, 2016 / 2:11 pm

        Exactly! I was a bridesmaid in the summer and me and the other bridesmaid wore the same dress and are the same size but it was like a mini on me and a midi length on her haha!

  20. November 20, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    I have a similar problem with my bum, it is a little on the larger side so finding jeans that fit is a nightmare because if I want skinny jeans they squeeze my bum but if I get them to fit my bum they’re tight on the legs urgh! You look stunning in your pictures πŸ™‚
    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog

    • November 20, 2016 / 7:29 pm

      Thanks Rosy! I have a big bum too, no matter how skinny I’ve been I’ve always had a disporporiately big bum! I recommend the ASOS rivington jeggings – if you like them with a zip, and the dorothy perkins Eden ones – they seem to have plenty of bum room and are still a skinny fit πŸ™‚ xxx

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  22. February 22, 2017 / 10:36 pm

    Know the feeling! You’re gorgeous, though!

  23. February 27, 2017 / 4:44 am

    Hi there! I’m an in-betweenie as well – my calves are skinny, my thighs and waist are big – so shopping for jeans can be a nightmare. I also have a huge tummy, so most tops are loose along the armholes and tight in the belly area. Sigh. It can be discouraging to go clothes-shopping when you feel like nothing fits you well, but I’ve found shops whose sizes work well for my figure, thank god πŸ™‚

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  26. May 1, 2017 / 2:40 am

    I think every “plus size” girl, like myself, has a story like this. Either jeans fit my thighs but not my butt or visa versa…..its always a struggle. I have found that Charlotte Russe has good jeans for plus size girls, just FYI.
    This is a great post and thank you for sharing your story. Please check out my post https://ladyhoodjourney.com/2017/04/26/a-healthy-mind-the-story-of-a-thick-girl/
    where I share some of my story about being a thick girl. I would love your thoughts!!!!!

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  28. May 2, 2017 / 3:55 pm

    This is such a good post, thank you for sharing. I feel exactly the same, I don’t have your height but I have big boobs and I am much bigger than you, I really related to you reading this. I hope the wedding dress shopping goes well, you are going to be a beautiful bride there’s no doubt about that xxxx

    • Thanks Zoe! I’m now a month away today from the wedding (oh god!) – it’s three weeks before I pick up my dress and I couldn’t be more excited to wear it! xxx

  29. May 2, 2017 / 7:47 pm

    I think a lot of people feel the same way, myself included. I am quite petite in the breast department and my tummy isn’t flat but okayish, but then my hips are very wide and my thighs quite big and I find it very difficult to dress myself as I really feel confident in what I wear.
    Great post!
    Vanessa x | http://www.springlilies.com

    • Thank you Vanessa! I wrote this post for everyone who feels like their body doesn’t fit in with the standard! It took me years to find the style which suited me best, Tight on top with a big flared skirt!

  30. May 3, 2017 / 2:35 am

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  31. May 3, 2017 / 11:51 am

    Wow, your look is so super cute!
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    May 7, 2017 / 12:19 am

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  33. May 11, 2017 / 3:02 pm

    Gosh i love how real and honest you are. I HATE Shopping! I feel the same way you do. I have a smaller top then bottom and it’s a struggle to find things that fit properly. I’m working my way to accepting the way that I am and loving my self the way that I am (VERY CURVY) πŸ˜‰ because curvy girls ROCK! Sending you my positive energy for your dress hunting. Remember they can alter a dress specifically to your body. You are beautiful and I love your honesty.

    • Thanks Maria! I’m now just three weeks away from the wedding, I just leave it pinned to the top of my blog because I get so many emails from people saying thank you they thought they were alone! Going to try my dress on for the final fitting on Saturday, a little nervous as I’ve been snacking a bit too much this month, and been put on some new tablets that have made me bloat big time!
      You’re right Curvy girls rock, way more sexy! xx

  34. May 16, 2017 / 7:10 pm

    Great post, I am that mixture where I am on the larger end of normal clothing stores but a bit small for some plus size things which can make shopping a bit of a nightmare x

  35. July 14, 2017 / 1:37 pm

    I think body confidence and anything and everything related to that is very personal. It’s so brave of you for sharing, I would never be able to do the same. All I can say is try to be as confident as you can, even if you don’t think you have it in you. I face the same problem because I feel like my body is really disproportionate. xx Nikita
    BLOG//Jasmine Loves

  36. July 14, 2017 / 2:38 pm

    This isn’t personally a problem that I’ve faced but I still found it really interesting and insightful to read your point of view and I still feel like I can really sympathise with you! Good luck with the wedding dress shopping!x
    SHAKIRA / SHAKIRA SACKS

  37. luxblush
    July 14, 2017 / 3:37 pm

    I think you’re so brave for publishing this! I hate the sudden trend of cropping everything too, as 99% of things tend to be cropped which is unfair as that style doesn’t suit everybody! Good luck with the wedding dress shopping, you’ll find something and it’ll be gorgeous!xx
    Hannah | luxuryblush

  38. nmfranco
    August 2, 2017 / 5:21 am

    You are so brave for speaking up about this but I think more people need to! You look beautiful in your wedding dress by the way!
    xx Nicole
    http://toogoldstreet.com

  39. August 29, 2017 / 3:41 pm

    I am there with you! I am 5 foot 9.5 and I am a size 14.. Sometimes 16 depending on the brand!

  40. September 15, 2017 / 7:15 pm

    Omg, so you look absolutely beautiful in all these pics. The best, however, is you in your wedding gown. OMG, girl!! A model!! I wish I had your body!!!
    xxoo
    Mary
    http://www.BelleOnTrend.com

  41. September 28, 2017 / 5:29 am

    Being body positive is an extremely hard thing these days. I’m still coming to terms with my figure. I’m 5’1, almost 150lbs, have short legs, and I’ve always had issues finding pants that fit my petite torso. They seem to make pants, thinking that all woman are built the same. Most of the time, I have to hem my pants after I purchase them. Due to my medical issues, my weight fluctuates, so I rely on stretchy fabric, rather than fitting.

  42. Amy Arnold
    October 16, 2017 / 6:57 pm

    I’m tall too and crop tops and mini skirts are tough! You look amazing and have every reason to feel good!
    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  43. Mariann Yip
    October 16, 2017 / 7:44 pm

    It is definitely a struggle, I feel that the fashion industry fails to represent those that are not a certain body type. I’d like to see models of all kinds of sizes.

  44. October 17, 2017 / 9:51 pm

    Hugs! Thank you for speaking out and good on you for having the body confidence now! You will find the perfect wedding dress, one that fits you perfectly and gosh, you look like an angel in the last picture.
    Shireen⎜Reflection of Sanity

  45. heidisplanner
    October 18, 2017 / 1:44 pm

    I’m some kind of inbetweener too, so I get it. I almost never find clothes that fit me well, so I battled with that for a long time and I didn’t even think that I was normal. But now my body confidence has been grown and I know that I’m not in the normal mold with bodies, but I’m just as beautiful as other people.
    Heidi ✨

  46. October 18, 2017 / 7:07 pm

    Hi Rachel! This is such a beautiful post! It’s so important to remember that none of us should ever be put in a box because we are all unique in our own ways. You truly are GORGEOUS, inside and out!
    Happy Wednesday, babe!
    xoxo, Vanessa
    http://www.WhatWouldVWear.com

  47. November 1, 2017 / 10:23 am

    Hi Rachel i nominated you for the versatile blogging award please check my blog for more details.

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