Since Christmas, just about every day has had some kind of wedding admin, or wedding activity attached to it. I’m really at the point now where my life is being dictated by the wedding, 2 weeks into January I would of told you that I hated that that was the case and getting married is more hassle than what it’s worth, however after some serious list-making, planning and research I’m actually, for the most part, enjoying my wedding chores.
Much to everyone’s delight I finally got the full ‘day’ invites finished off at the end of January, sent off to the printers and dispatched the first week of February. I did little printed notecards in a beautiful sparkly paper. with an RSVP postcard (mainly cause I’d not seen anyone do this before, and partially because I didn’t want to spend another 15p per fancy sparkly envelope for people to return them). They’re also really fun things to get returned through the letterbox!
I don’t want to go into too much detail on these, in case I have any friends reading as I don’t want to reveal all my secrets before the big day. Finding vases for the centerpieces was the single most stressful experience of wedding planning thus far, I can’t tell you how many have been ordered and I now have a huge amount of vases to fill at all times. At one point I bought one that was so large, it fit over my head and comfortably rested on my shoulders after not correctly estimating in my head just how big 25 centimetres wide would be. After literally 2 months of searching we finally tracked down the perfect size and shape.
My mum and I are doing the centerpieces ourselves the day before and went to the wholesale florist supplies to gather ideas and information about how far in advance we needed to order, and decided to an impromptu run through. It turned out better than I was expecting if I’m being honest and now feel relieved that we actually did a pretty professional looking job and I now know we’re going to nail it, rather than hoping we would.
Bouquets / Buttonholes / Formal Church arrangements / Anything that has the potential to fall apart is still going to be done by a professional, I don’t have confidence in mine or my mum’s stress levels to handle the task of doing those as well and have arranged my final debrief with the florist.
I’m going to do be doing a whole post on this once the wedding has been as I don’t want to reveal what’s happening for guests. But this is a big DIY project we’ve started one as each will be personalised to the guest whilst there’s a lot of ‘bulk tasks’ in the job, it’s going to take some time to make sure that we’ve got everything right. Progress has started and after much deliberation between us both we’ve got a solid plan in place.
We now have our Wedding rings… kind of! We went at the end of December on New Years Eve to have a browse and ended up buying them on the second of January. We had them at home for a few weeks and I’ve decided that mine is a little small feeling, so mine is now back at the Jewellers. I ended up with what I thought I wanted after trying lots of sizes, shapes on, a 2mm plain platinum band (engagement ring is also platinum so I knew I wanted to match that) – I don’t have a lot of space between my knuckle and wanted to leave space for an eternity ring so bought the skinniest one possible!
Toilet ‘Help Yourself’ Baskets
If you saw my Boots haul, you’ll already know this is something I’ve been working on. I’m copying the idea from a few friends weddings I’ve been to in the past 3 years where they’ve had baskets of convenience items in the toilet for guests to touch up to make themselves comfortable, such as hair bobbles, blister plasters and deodorant. I’ve managed to get all the bits now for the female basket, I’m now waiting for Ben to buck his ideas up and get the bits for the men’s basket so I can write up a post on what we’ve included in them (so people can give me any final ideas of stuff I may have forgotten).
Wedding Related Nightmares
Not one I wanted to tick off the list but they started just before Christmas. My most recent one has been the worst yet, I dreamt that none of the suppliers turned up on the day (flowers, hairdressers, photographer, makeup artist etc), I was trying to call Ben and couldn’t get hold of him to postpone the wedding for a week, but he was paintballing (naturally hours before getting married). I ended up running around in my wedding dress with unbrushed hair and looking like a total Hot Mess before getting to the church looking bedraggled and Ben asked if I was wearing a ‘joke dress’. I’ve never bolted up in bed before this dream, but holy crap I’m praying that’s the last one as I quite literally didn’t sleep well for a week following it fearing another similar dream. Other similar dreams have been the wedding dress shop calling to say ‘do you want us to order your dress, or what?’.
My hen party (bachelorette, for my friends over the pond) has now been and gone. We had it a little early as two of my friends are now almost 8 months pregnant and my sister (hen party planner) tried to accommodate them coming. I had know knowledge over what was happening for my hen at all and it was left in the hands of my bridesmaids to plan.
We went to Cambridge which whilst isn’t a massive distance from my house (90 minutes or so) (again to accommodate the pregnant people) was lovely as I don’t go very often. Friday night I had a meal with my sister, mum, future sister in law and mother in law – as well as my eldest friend Jo, we headed back to the hotel for a cuppa tea and an early night as other people were arriving in the morning. Saturday involved a quick breakfast stop at Pret where everyone came, and then 2 team scavenger hunt around Cambridge to all get in phone boxes and find out facts about various buildings in the town, I must admit when my sister said we were doing a scavenger hunt I was thinking “this is such a Becca thing to say” and had no idea what would happen, but it was actually loads of fun and a nice way to see things we wouldn’t have seen. We had Champagne Afternoon tea and then had a little time to shop before getting ready for our evening out. I finally came across a Charlotte Tilbury Counter, and planned to get a CT lipstick for my wedding day (cause I have Rose Gold accessories… natural choice), more on that in a second.#
Saturday we had the most delicious Italian meal (I’m definitely going back to the restaurant again) and partied the night away with a lot of prosecco. Sunday we went to a spa where one of my pregnant friends joined and we had a relaxing treatment, which was the perfect way to end the weekend as I was feeling a little… delicate, shall we say?
Hen parties are such a bizarre experience when you have all your different groups together who you love but might not have even met before. I had everyone there from my oldest friend that we’ve known each other since pre-school, to friends who I made two years ago in my last job. It’s very weird you being the link between all these different people, some of which I don’t get to see often enough. I kind of actually liked having it a little earlier, it means I get to spread out the time for the people I don’t get to spend a lot of time with over a few months rather than crammed up together within a few weeks and I can not wait to see them all again in a few months.
If my hens are reading this, thank you so much for an absolutely amazing weekend. You da best.
So importantly, that wedding lipstick I was talking about. The John Lewis in Cambridge had an AMAZING beauty department, I had considered a Marc Jacobs lipstick (as I really like the mini one I got last year in Sephora… which I am going to be reviewing soon!) as well as a Charlotte Tilbury one. Once I saw the CT counter I knew I was getting one, regardless of whether I found the perfect shade or not, a few weeks ago on Sophie’s blog I spotted a shade called Secret Salma and thought… hmm that could well be the shade, and without even looking at the names in the shop that was the one that jumped out of me when swatched a load. I wanted something rosey rather than brown toned as it’s going to be late spring/early summer and I think this is a completely me shade. It’s described as a matte but it’s not fully matte and I think it will last well on the lips whilst not looking completely dry.
Upcoming this month, we have our Church music evening to decide on what hymns and music we’d like for the ceremony (if you’re reading it the day it goes up it’s actually this evening). My Bridesmaid dresses have arrived in the store, so I’ll be off with them no doubt for their fittings at some point. I still have a lot of DIY projects to be getting on with, which I’m planning series on lots of them when we’re done and dusted, and I have some things I must order this month (such as a veil and evening invites), I’m still on the hunt to find my wedding earrings to match up with the rest of my jewellery (the ones which matched identically were too long for me) and a clutch bag for carrying round my lipstick/anything else I need on the night – I might potentially take my camera with me as I love a selfie with that thing ha!
The list is finally getting shorter, and I hope by the end of month March I may have ticked off a lot more, I’m hoping by the start of May I’ll have very little to do, and can wind down and relax a bit for a few weeks – rather than it being wedding stress up until the last minute.